In an interesting twist on charts and discipline, this versatile wheel can be hung on a wall or toted with you in the car and on vacations. It's a way to get whole family involvement, and a little bit of humor to get us over the discipline bumps.

Kayla Fay, publisher of Who Put the Ketchup in the Medicine Cabinet? says, "This is the proverbial spoonful of sugar to help the medicine go down! Only a loving parent could come up with such an effective way to discipline children."

As the Wheel Turns
Originally, the wheel sprang from constant battles between Julie's 9- and 12-year-old children, David and Laura.

With battles raging in their home, Julie and her husband decided they must find some way to keep the peace.

Julie says, "We hated the atmosphere of tension that would invariably follow these exchanges. Our once happy home was being turned into a war zone, and it felt like there were land mines scattered beneath our feet.

One night, in desperation, we called the kids into the living room and told them how upsetting their behavior was. We asked them for suggestions on how we could restore peace and serenity back into the family." The kids were sent to their room to come up with at least six appropriate consequences for their next fight.

David and Laura presented the family with consequences like:

Clean the other person's room.
Do dishes for the other person.
Make the other person's bed for a week.
Lend your favorite CD or game to the other person for a week.
Make a list of ten good things about the other person.
Hug and make up….

These suggestions were arranged around the perimeter of a board, and a spinner attached to the middle. The premise was that the spinner would choose the consequence for them, and they would hang the board in plain view in the kitchen.

Julie remembers, "We crossed our fingers, and waited. And waited. It was amazing. Just the presence of the board, hanging on our kitchen wall, had an instant calming effect on the atmosphere in our home. Occasionally we'd see one of the kids standing in front of the board, idly flicking the spinner, checking it out. But the fighting had stopped." Once the fighting subsided, Julie realized of course, the battle was won, but not the war. Ten days later, the fighting began again, but this time they were prepared.

Time of First Use:

Says Julie, "We called them both into the kitchen, took the board down off the wall, and placed it on the table. They knew what they had to do. How could they refuse? They chose the consequences. They practically invented the board. It landed on the most dreaded consequence of all: Hug and make up!"

there were other behaviors she also wished to curb.. "It seemed like the kids were always leaving the lights on when they left a room. Or they'd leave the TV on when they went to bed. Why not make another wheel with consequences related to wasting electricity?"

Eventually, eight themes were added:

Excessive Arguing
Leaving the Lights on
Not Putting Things Away
A Job Poorly Done
Stretching the Truth
Taking Without Asking
Talking Back
Wheel of Just Desserts (rewards)

What Wheel Looks Like

Forty-eight consequences and 16 rewards are printed on peel-and-stick paper with colorful eye-catching graphics, enabling

parents to customize the wheel to meet their family's needs.Just cut them out and stick them on. It's very easy to make up your own consequences and themes. Just add them to the blank paper, provided.

Interestingly, Julie says the wheel lowers her stress, keeps the consequences appropriate, and removes parents from the "Bad Guy" label.

In the past, she and her husband would have to repeatedly ask David to do something, only to hear him say, "I know." This would come to a boil, and in anger they would yell and exact a punishment too harsh for the infraction. Now, the wheel does all the work.

The Wheel In Action

"David, it's 8:15; you haven't started the dishes yet. I'm afraid we'll have to spin the wheel." "But, Mom!" "I'm sorry, Dear. It's

really not up to me. Those are the rules we all agreed on. Gee, I hope you don't land on a really bad consequence." Julie says, "The amazing thing is, we're no longer the bad guys. We can actually root for the kids as they drag themselves up to the wheel. It's no longer 'us against them'. It's the wheel that they have to answer to. But the greatest thing of all is that we hardly ever have to use the wheel. It hangs on the kitchen wall, acting as a watchdog and reminder."

What Else? The Butlers' website, www.better-behavior.com, shows some parents of ADHD children have found the wheel to be a wonderful program. That is great news for many! Every

parent should work with their child's personality and decide if the wheel is right for them, keeping in mind that every program doesn't work with every child.

When The Wheel is Inappropriate

There are a couple of letters on Julie's site from parents asking for help with children who are completely out of control. One mother says her five-year-old "beats (his big sister), kills animals, curses, and destroys everything in his path." Another mother said her six-year-old adopted daughter has angry outbursts and goes in cycles. She wondered what to do when her child refuses the consequences and it starts another battle. These are warning signs of something more serious than just a discipline problem. Often, young children and teenagers exhibiting these symptoms have a physical problem that can cause behavioral changes, such as infections, Lyme Disease and thyroid problems. Mental disorders such as early-onset bipolar disorder can also cause very similar

symptoms and must be diagnosed and treated immediately. In these cases, the Better Behavior Wheel would not be appropriate and medical intervention is needed immediately. For help, contact your pediatrician and look for information on these diseases and disorders on the Internet. However, there is still a possibility that the wheel will be valuable with a child who is stabilized. Again, parents will have to make the decision to try the wheel according to each child. The Last Word Parents of children with normal behavior and discipline problems are encouraged to try this wheel and have a little fun with discipline! Bringing the whole family into the discipline decision-making is an excellent way to work as a team and come to a peaceful solution. The wheel isn't meant to exact negative punishment on a child, but rather remind them to pick their battles and mind their parents. Teachers and parents alike will find the wheel very useful in classrooms and homes everywhere with children ages four and up!